Cleaning some files on my computer, I ran across this. I put this together for a special bridal tea that a wonderful friend gave my daughter Robbin. She invited a few godly women and had each one give some kind of gift that complimented something that they shared with Robbin about marriage. I gave Robbin an embroidered towel with her wedding date, and her and Jake’s initials on it, hanging on a nice towel holder. I shared the following with her…

Dear Robbin:
As I researched what a towel can do, I found more than I bargained for! Here are some examples of what I found:

  • …can dry oneself off after a bath, shower or swim
  • …often monogrammed to publically promote an organization
  • …for wiping and cleaning objects
  • …worn for privacy while changing clothes in public places
  • …as a cushy spot for sunbathing
  • …for scrubbing, or to wash the face and body
  • …to dry tears
  • …to dry hands after washing
  • …used as a makeshift turban or sarong
  • …for wiping counters and dishes
  • …for cleaning cars and golf equipment
  • …convenient as first aid for applying direct pressure or as a temporary tourniquet
  • …can be used to give warmth
  • …is super absorbent and wipes water away and when it becomes too wet, it can be squeezed to get the water out of the towel so it can be used again
  • …used by wetting, applying soap, then using the towel to apply the soap to the skin. This increases abrasion, and can remove dead skin cells from the skin more effectively than just manual application and rubbing of soap.
  • …to sit, lie, stand on to avoid direct contact with the ground, sand, rock, chair, etc.
  • …steamed, they prepare the skin for shaving
  • …to reserve seats, for example, sun-loungers by the side of the swimming pool (a source of annoyance to some and amusement to others.)
  • …A towel can act as a makeshift blanket, as an extra layer of clothing for cold conditions.
  • …a handkerchief
  • …a fort for make-believe
  • …use as a rope to reach someone in crisis
  • …can be used to protect its owner…to block the gap between the door and floor to help stop noxious gases from entering the room.
  • …can be used as a whip – towel snapping
  • …to hold hot objects
  • …as a sling for a broken arm

As you can see there are numerous ways a towel gets used. I think of the towel as a symbol of marriage and a spouse’s role in marriage. Marriage is the most wonderful thing in the world! I am so thrilled that you found Jakob and Jakob found you. I have no doubt that God has tremendous things in store for you both – adventures galore!

I chose to give you this towel to remind you to be intentional in your marriage. Have fun (towel snapping). Be creative in your marriage – we saw that there are dozens of uses for a towel – in marriage there are dozens of ways to tackle life’s hurdles. Just like with the towel, a couple can dry tears, mop up messes, relax, comfort, apply first aid, rub off the barriers that prevent you from connecting well [best attempt to tie in the dead skin cells example], snuggle up, have a good cry and blow your nose, protect each other, save seats beside each other, throw each other the lifeline when needed, provide each other with a sacred place – private away from anyone else where you can share your troubles, publically honor (promote) each other to others – always letting people know how much you care about each other. Remember to escape often into the world of dreams and make-believe together – always play the game “someday we will ……” Dreaming together breathes life into your relationship. Fight fair and fight well – making up with each other is a very sweet moment! Like the towel, your relationship will take some wear and tear, but when you apply the right intention, you can “wash and dry the towel” and it comes out fluffy and new, ready to go again for the next job at hand!

The most important advice I can give you is this: NEVER, NEVER, NEVER – THROW IN THE TOWEL.

I Love you and will always be cheering you and Jakob on from the sidelines!

Love, Mom

*Robbin has been married a little over a year now and it’s so fun to see her marriage grow strong.  Proud of both her and Jake! 

About cakboliv

Born in Cochabamba, Bolivia to wonderful missionary parents, Howard and Maxine Morarie. Grew up in Bolivia, both in a remote jungle village

2 responses »

  1. Robbin Brown says:

    I see that towel everyday and it reminds me of all the word’s of wisdomw associated with it! 🙂 Thanks mom! Always a good reminder!

  2. Jeanie says:

    Very beautiful! The visual symbol will never leave her. Love it.

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